What do you think your job as a parent should be, might be or even was?
Is it to nurture? My thoughts are that this is indeed the main goal. To love. To teach. To nurture.
Not so for everyone. I think parents need to be selfless. To put the child's needs first and foremost.
I am raising this because I know a lady who seemingly is a kind, responsible mother with 2 children. Apparently she wants to get her son assessed because he is "out of control".
His crime? He wakes his parents a couple of times at night.
Yep. That is it. She readily told the story of her husband yelling "you f"!$ing c*~"t" at her son in the night because he woke them.
Hmmm. Anyone see a problem with this?
Her son is 4
My son is 12 and still wakes me if he needs me. Sometimes to talk, sometimes if he has had a bad dream or if he is unwell.
That is the way it is. That is the way this parenting business works. If your child needs you, you need to be there. Her son has moved half way across the world recently to settle back in Australia. His parents went on a two week holiday without telling him or his little sister, with a "see you in a couple of days" parting conversation.
Is it any wonder her son is a bit insecure?
Look I know that at times the last thing you need is a broken night sleep but would anything warrant such a vicious tirade from a Daddy? Or the lack of support from a Mummy? I would certainly have something to say if the Silver Fox spoke like that t our children.
Hmmm, all I can think of is this sweet little man feeling nervous and upset and lying in his bed in the dark, worrying.
He is 4. What is something big happens in his life when he is older? Who has he learnt to trust? His parents? Maybe not.
I'm not suggesting parents need to be perfect but surely there are basics to basics to aspire to, to achieve, to get right.
Surely security should be high on the list?
ciao for now
just Martha xxx
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