The response to my Dad putting my Mum in care has been 99% positive. My siblings support the decision 100%. Most friends say they saw it coming for years.
One couple of long time friends
They highly disapprove. Highly
And they tell my Dad
He gets destroyed by their attitude even though he knows he made the right decision for Mum and him.
They criticize everything including Mum not wearing stockings!
Both my sister and I have spoken to them to no avail. We are not outwardly rude but they are not willing to listen. No insight. They recently rang me and asked if I could drive Mum up and they would keep her over night and drive her back in the morning. See? No insight into her condition to even suggest that. Our priority is to Mum and she would not cope in a strange place at all. Heck, she gets stressed when I take her out for an hour!
We are very disappointment in them for my Dad because it doesn't matter how many people are supportive, this attitude hurts him the most.
We have even considered asking them not to visit but at the end of the day Mum has a great time even if she doesn't remember! So now I have asked them to contact me only when they are intending to visit to save Dad getting stressed by them.
Dementia is never easy is it on many levels?
ciao for now
just Martha xxx
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